It is also a well known fact that all puppies go through "fear periods" - periods of time when the puppy might react in a fearful manner to situations/things...Even if these situations and "things" are known! While these fear periods are generally short lived, they can be frequent and, GASP! The Socialization Clock is ticking!
However, I learned many years ago (from the BEST school - the School of Hard Knocks and my "autistic" dog, Spur), that the best way to get through these annoying fear periods is to ignore them.
meG says, "Fear Period? What's that! I'm not 'fraid of anthing!"
Here is what I did with meG during her first fear period at about 11 weeks, and will continue to do during her subsequent fear periods:
I did not FORCE her to meet the scary man/dog/child/cat/rock/log/hole in the ground. No "Oh, come off it, meG, it's your BUDDY, Kitty, remember?" all the while dragging her up to said Kitty, with her body language saying she'd rather do ANYTHING else. Rather, we stop and observe. Usually she catches herself, sometimes I can see her embarrassment (LOL) as she realizes that the scary monster is really our friend Jack in his full chainsaw kit (helmet/faceguard/ear protectors/chaps/giant gloves). Sometimes it takes a bit longer and might not happen today. "Tomorrow" often brings about a complete change and the Scary Thing is back to being mundane again.
What I don't do is indulge her.
No cookies or petting, and no cooing, "It's okay, meG, don't be scared......It's okay....Poor meG...."
Because why mark Fear? Why would I want to REWARD fear? Everyone knows rewarding a behavior only makes it stronger! Yes, I know about "classical conditioning" - teaching the puppy to Like the Scary Thing" through an association with something pleasant (cookies, play etc.) - but I don't believe it is the best thing to do in these types of situations. I think it just creates a "Your Fear is a Real Thing" headline, often in blazing, neon, in your dog's head...
And likely yours as well! Subconsciously, maybe...But if I KNOW she was scared of The Thing yesterday, and I made a Big Deal out of it...Today I will probably (unconsciously?) Prepare for The Thing and meG's Real Fear.
Now, when she finally does wriggle into Jack's patiently waiting (steel fiber clad) arms, tail wagging, tongue licking; that is when cookies should be delivered!...Except meG is too busy being coddled and petted to take cookies ;) Self rewarded bravery! The best!
And now, for fun, here are some photos of meG and her sister Cass on a walk near Boston on their 3 month birthday. After a few initial minutes of sisterly punching and hair pulling, they were fast friends.
meG was also a superstar in the hotel - her first time! She traveled with Fen, who thinks hotels are awesome. meG just copied her Auntie!
She met a ton of people: got treats from housekeeping staff and a toddler who (inadvertently?) gave her his slice of toast; rode the elevator up and down; managed the stairs like a pro; visited Lowes and PetSmart and went for a walk in a busy park (busy for this country gal, anyway).
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Never-stop-puppies = blurry photos. |
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Creekside Cass, the Flying Nun, with meG close at her heels. |
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In the BIG dog crate. |